In regards to the ongoing, invisible argument between moms, this guys honest portrayal of his own experience may have been the most truth I’ve read in quite some time and it definitely needed to be said. I love that it was a husband and father who said it!
As a mother who has held both positions between home and the workforce, I can wholeheartedly relate to both sides of this debate. Personally, I’ve experienced life’s wonderfully uncomfortable realities from both perspectives; that of the Working Mother as well as the Stay-at-Home-Mom. Both jobs begin as impossible choices. A choice that ultimately becomes a title. The title in turn must be defended by the holder. Why? Because it’s human nature to protect what is ours.
What is a title if we do not own it?
The dilemma of whether to work as a Homemaker or as a Provider is a determination that comes with tremendous reward and sacrifice. Consequently, either decision can cause a significant amount of doubt in a woman’s mind. That’s just the guilt we inflict upon ourselves in our weakest moments. So when that mom is too busy defending her own title to respect this moms decision we run into problems like what the author refers to in this powerful article.
If you’re a Mom… READ it!
No matter what your decision is as a mother, it is yours and you made it for good reason. Own it. Let no other mother bring you down. If you can no longer defend your choice to stay home or go to work then maybe it’s time to reevaluate the situation.
What decision did you make and have you owned it?
*PS. I neglected to mention Single Moms & Work-at-Home-Moms, but I think we can all pretty much be summed up into two categories for the purpose of this article. (Did I mention I’ve held both of these titles as well?! 🙂